process of developing my idea of my ideal woman, I was going to do it
on a hypothetical basis. However, I felt that it was important for me
to be practical and realistic; that is how I would like may ideal
woman to be. Obviously, I am sure that a woman would also have several traits
for a man that would suit her. The same goes for me. There is a basic criterion that a lady must
have that suits me.
like a woman who I can dub as lady like. I feel that when
I speak to ladies, I put forth manners of a gentleman and I would like
a lady who would respond with the same courtesy. If feel that if a woman
is to be my soul mate, she must be aware of herself and she must be true to herself.
I believe that if a woman can identify and know herself, she would be
willing to have deeper feelings about me. Also, I would be able to do
the same because the dynamics in our relationship would not be base
on superficial communication.
that my ideal woman must be highly educated. Education
is too essential to pass up and I find that to be very important. I would
prefer that my ideal woman not be a widow, but if she is, I would be
willing to be with her during her hard times. I also say the same about
children; I would prefer that this woman does not have children but
if she does, I would help to rear them.
prefer that my ideal woman not be in debt. I do not feel that I am willing
to go out of my way to help because of the dividing problems that may possibly
arise when money is the root of the problem. I would find it easy for myself to offer
money at times but hard to receive. I am used to not asking for money
from anyone except my immediate family. I have the security that no
problems will arise. To be secure, I would like a woman who can well manage
her money. I would prefer that she has good budgeting skills. Knowing
how to budget has always been an issue in my family so I feel I want
to carry that on.
In my strive
to develop good health before my old age, I do not feel that a woman
who smokes will help aide my pro-wellness. I would like for my ideal
woman to understand that smoking yields nothing beneficial; she must
understand that smoking can only hurt her and me and that taking part in that habit should
not even be an issue.
religious, I feel that my wife should be spiritual. I feel that a woman
who is religious and not spiritual is probably just following the institutional
confluence for her own personal reasons. However, I feel that one who
is very spiritual is one who can help me develop myself through her own self awareness. When referring to location I would like my ideal
wife to be close to me. I feel that it is important for our relationship
to last and become stronger as the years go by. However, if we are not
close to each other and we are not able to learn about each other completely,
the relationship may not last. I believe that emotionally, my wife must
be ready to nurture and take care of me ;I feel I am willing to do the
same and more. I find that emotional availability is very important
because it can set the tone of the relationship. If my spouse is not
available emotionally, my relationship can possibly fall apart due to
the misunderstandings that can arise and the insecurities that may develop.
For example, I would have the impression that my wife does not care
for me if she does not show any emotional support when I may be walking
around our home grumpily and sad. My wife will also have to be physically
and emotionally available. For example when I
am feeling down or depressed, my wife would have to show some physical
affection. I feel that the combination of physical and emotional availability
can give me the strong impression that my wife is striving to make me
feel happier. I would prefer that my wife come from a culturally submerged,
family. Also it would give me an idea of the type of person
and family that I am dealing with. It would be of my assurance that
my wife is coming from a good close-knit family.
I believe that maturity is more important with age, thus I would prefer a woman who is extraordinarily mature. I feel that that is how I am, thus a woman who is like that would make communication comfortable for me. However, I feel that it would be mature for me to have an ideal woman at an age similar to mine. I feel that a woman who is like a peer to me would make me feel most comfortable. A woman who is below my age range may still be experiencing life trials that I should not interfere with. A woman older than my age range would probably have the same affect on me and interfere with my experiences. This interference that I refer to is a love and self desire interference.
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